I’m not ready to be a father.
I can’t believe this is happening. What do I do next?
How can I support my partner right now?
If your partner recently told you she’s pregnant, you’re likely feeling overwhelmed with a million questions running through your head.
These feelings are understandable, but you’re not alone. At First Choice Women’s Center, we’re here for you and your partner.
Has your partner confirmed her pregnancy with lab-quality pregnancy testing and an ultrasound? If not, this is an essential first step. Help her schedule a free, confidential appointment today.
Are you worried about becoming a father? Wondering about your rights and responsibilities? We get it. We are here to answer any questions you have.
How to Support Your Partner
Your partner is likely also feeling many emotions as she processes the news. And the best way to help right now is to pledge your support to her as she weighs her options.
It can be difficult to know how best to support her right now, but the following ideas can help:
- Maintain Open Communication: Maintaining open communication is the key to showing your partner support. Encourage open and honest conversations about her feelings, fears, and expectations. Listen actively and empathetically without judgment, and ensure that your partner feels heard and understood. Even if you disagree with her, help her know that you’re there for you, no matter what.
- Educate Yourself: Understanding what your partner is going through can help you be more empathetic and show better support. Learn about pregnancy, its stages, and the physical and emotional changes she may experience. This knowledge will enable you to encourage her and anticipate her needs. It’s also helpful to learn about the different pregnancy options she’s considering so you can discuss them together.
- Be Present: Your presence is invaluable. Attend prenatal appointments, classes, and other related activities. Being there shows your commitment and helps you provide emotional support.
- Offer Practical Help: Assist with everyday tasks and responsibilities. Help your partner with household chores, run errands, and make sure she has time to rest. Practical support can alleviate stress and show that you’re there for her.
- Respect Her Decisions: An unexpected pregnancy involves many decisions, from prenatal care to birth plans and beyond. Respect your partner’s choices and support her in making informed decisions. Offer your perspective, but ultimately, it’s important to honor her autonomy and preferences.
- Plan Together: Discuss and plan for the future as a team. Talk about financial planning, living arrangements, and how you will manage the outcome of your partner’s pregnancy decision (like figuring out parenting responsibilities, etc.). Creating a plan together helps both partners feel more secure and prepared for the changes ahead.
We’re Here for You
Navigating an unexpected pregnancy can feel overwhelming, but we’re here for you and your partner.
Contact us today to learn how we can help.